The CPR of Life

Taking The Fear Out Of Public Speaking

Who doesn't want to feel more comfortable speaking in public? Whether presenting to an audience, pitching to clients or networking having a clear message is really important. In this episode, I chat with public speaking coach and the owner of 'How to Present Training and Mentoring' - Briohny Williams.  

In this episode we talk about:

• Being grounded in your message;
• Tips for presenting;
• Public speaking isn’t just about being on stage, for entrepreneurs it about every interaction; and
• Don’t hide, you have a purpose and a message - if you are in the service-based industry you are there to serve and help others.

Here is an important thing to remember: when you are speaking to an audience they are not there to see you - they are there to hear your message. Defining and refining your message is such a valuable investment of your time and energy. 

 Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• Public speaking is much more than presenting to thousands, it’s about being clear in your message whenever you are interacting, networking, engaging with others;
• Often fear of speaking isn’t about standing up in front of others, it can be fear of showing up, of having a voice, etc. tapping into this space helps address some of the reasons you may be hesitant to engage in speaking opportunities; 
• As entrepreneurs we often overthink the notion of the ‘elevator pitch’, an easy fix for this is to take a bit of time and prepare so that your message comes from a space of truth rather than a sales pitch; and finally
• I like the analogy Bri mentioned about developing the skill of public speaking is much the same as when someone is mastering a craft whether that be an athlete, a musician, etc. There is much repetition, time and activity put into mastering their craft - once they do the work tends to become more effortless and there are many more opportunities on the flip side.  

Briohny has a wonderful FB group 'Public Speaking for Entrepreneurs'. I highly recommend you check it out. 

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You. 

My Mental Health Rocks - Episode #33

I'm very excited about this conversation. My guests Leanne Macdonald and Julie Brown are blazing the trail with their My Mental Health Rocks initiative. Leanne and Julie both work in the area of mental health and wellbeing. Their passion is evident and the difference they make in the lives of others is admirable.  

In this episode we talk about:

• What the ‘My Mental Health Rocks’ initiative is;
• Raising awareness about mental health takes a village; 
• Teaching versus exploring with children and youth; and
• Children are never broken and don’t need to be fixed.  

My mental health rocks initiative really drives home the point that it takes a village and when that perspective is embraced amazing things can happen.  

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• Teachers already have so many demands placed upon them. Adding the responsibility of emotional learning is neither reasonable nor fair. Of course, there is so much emotional learning that already goes on in day to day life at school. Children are constantly learning and growing in all their interactions and through all their relationships;
• There is a difference between teaching versus exploring. Teachers have a set curriculum they have to follow. This initiative focuses on exploration - which is so fun, insightful and life-changing;
• Teachers have an incredible impact and responsibility. As Julie mentioned, everyone can remember a teacher, whether that be because of a negative or a life-changing experience. Teachers are definitely a crucial part of creating the future of our children; and
• This message is one every person needs to hear: you are not broken, life is limitless when it comes to potential and a reminder when you are struggling, whatever you are going through is a temporary experience. Knowing this makes life flow in a much more natural and less stressful way. 

 Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You. 

Highlighting Children's Wellbeing - Episode #32

In this episode, I chat with Vicky Otter, a former teacher who followed her passion and now works as a wellbeing coach and facilitator. Vicky’s enthusiasm for all she does is evident, she really has such a lovely presence.  

In this episode we talk about:

• Running a workshop without a set agenda;
• The power of connection, when you are completely present in the moment, with little attachment to the outcome true connection is powerful. 
• All feelings are okay; and
• The benefits of having a ‘come as you are’ conversation.  

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• There are huge benefits to having a loose agenda for a workshop, doing so creates the opportunity for the participants to explore their own creativity;
• Listen to yourself, that’s where the wisdom is; 
• In conversations the speaker often has a purpose in what they are sharing, what we often forget is that the listener will receive the information from their own personal lens - it is through that lens that they will hear the message; and 
• The power of connection is immeasurable when you are truly present you give the opportunity for those you work with or are conversing with to feel like they matter. As Vicky said with her pilot project, they came together as strangers and left as friends.

Until next time be well, be inspired, be you.

Many blessings,

Jessie-Lynn

The Power of Legacy in Leadership Development

In this episode, I chat with Robert Heath a former teacher, lawyer and US marine corps officer about his amazing transition to being an author, empowerment speaker and leadership development coach.  

In this episode we talk about:

• Living a life with an enquiring mind, 
• Robert’s book, 
• What is leadership and what makes a good leader;
• The power of seeking and understand the world through various perspectives;
• Interdependence is the space where interconnectedness and creativity happens; and
• Managing people versus leading people. 

Robert's passion is so evident in this conversation. I love his movement toward legacy leadership. 

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• Leveraging talent and delegation paves the way to do more in less time and facilitates and foster the growth of others. This is the space where overall exponential growth happens;  
• Prioritizing, having clearly defined and communicated systems and boundaries and working from a proactive approach leads to a less stressful, more productive, and dedicated company culture;
• A leader is one who embraces personal growth and cultivates it in others. It is about facilitating the manifestation of the greatness in others; and
• Great leadership embraces the aspect of legacy. As Robert says when we empower people to be their greatest selves, we don’t just change them, we change everybody that gets to benefit from their gift. 

FREE GIFT!! Robert has kindly offered the listeners of this podcast a free e-copy of his book: "Why Can't People Just Do Their Jobs? The Empowering Leader's Guide to Having More Fulfillment, Less Stress, and Getting the Best Out of Those You Lead." 

I would highly recommend you reach out to Robert and take him up on this kind offer. His email is:

robert@legacyleadershipmastery.com 

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You. 

Rediscovering Who You Really Are

I'm always interested in what inspires someone to write a book. In this episode, I'm chatting with author and coach Ankush Jain about rediscovering (or discovering) who you really are. Ankush recently published his first book Sweet Sharing. It's an easy read filled with some valuable takeaways. 

In this conversation we talk about:

• Why Ankush wrote the book;
• The process and challenges of writing a book; 
• The ebb and flow of life; and
•  How transformation is at the heart of everything Ankush does in his work. 

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• Our reality is a reflection of our thinking moment to moment. There is a tremendous benefit to tapping into who we were before getting caught up in our thinking;
• Younger children show up unfiltered, without a lot of thinking about who they are (or are not), how they are showing up, etc. When we learn how our reality is created we are more likely to tap back into this unfiltered presence; and 
• When being of service is at the heart of your coaching business (and really for any business in general) clients feel that and are more likely to gain insight and experience of transformation.    

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You. 

 

Self-Love - A Discovery or A Journey?

I'm excited to share this conversation with you. My guest Phil Goddard and I are taking a deep dive into the topic of love. Phil is a romantic at heart and has written a couple of books about love and I was intrigued to hear more about his journey and why love and how he brings that into his coaching practice. 

In this episode we talk about:

• Why Phil embarked on a journey to understand love;
• What self-love is and what it is not;
• Why life is more enjoyable and fun when we stop searching; and
• The innate wisdom within every human being. 

 Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• What would love do? It is a great question to ask yourself when you are stuck, struggling or unsure of something, reflecting on this question can bring more clarity about the situation. It’s the type of inquiry that brings out the best in us;
• Love is something we define through our own personal lens. That lens changes from moment to moment. Knowing that love is an idea allows us to approach it in a lighthearted and fun way;
• When we are feeling stuck, heartbroken, depressed, etc., it is a gift to share that this moment and more so the feelings are transient and will pass; and
• When you are searching or embarking on a journey of self-love it is really a denial of accepting or embracing the love that is innate and lies within. 

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You. 

The Power of Deep Listening

In this episode I chat with Declan Stout, a caring human being with a big heart who is on a journey to transform many lives. We are talking about something near and dear to my heart - deep listening. 

Declan is the heart and soul behind Listen With Love - a beautiful space for people to donate their time to listen, and on the flip side, a free space for people to be listened to. 

 

In this episode we talk about:

• Deep listening: what it is and why it’s so powerful;
• How to listen deeply;
• The power of being present in a conversation; and
• The innate wisdom within every human being.  

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• Deep listening is an incredibly powerful thing. It is not about listening to respond, affirm, negate it is about being fully present. 
• What makes deep listening so impactful is the connection and showing up as an empty vessel;
• There is power in the pause when we don’t respond right after someone has finished speaking, we are giving them the space to find their own wisdom; and
• Wisdom comes from both sides in a conversation. Let your wisdom guide you either as a speaker and a listener; 

 

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You. 

Why Mental Health in the Workplace Matters

Mental health matters in every aspect of life. My guest Claire Russell and I talk about why mental health in the workplace is so important. When business leaders understand this everyone benefits. In this episode we chat about:

• The importance of acknowledging mental health in the workplace;
• Mental health affects us all, if you have a heartbeat, you experience mental health;
• #time4action is about taking the conversation about mental to the next level; and
• The wonderful work being done by the charity Samaritans.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• I have to say this really hit home for me. Business leaders (and leaders in general) have a responsibility to make mental health part of the business culture. There is a huge ripple effect when leaders embrace this;
• Many of us think we are immune to mental health issues. The truth is no-one is exempt from experiencing low moments that feel overwhelming. The secret is understanding that this is normal. It’s like a personal alert system that it’s time to take notice of how you are experiencing life at that moment;
• There are many organizations doing amazing things. The organization Samaritans responds to a call every 6 seconds. There are two things that stand out to me about this statistic. Firstly, there are a lot of people who feel they don’t have someone they can reach out to. This is our humanity, this should be at the forefront of the news and we are all responsible to help address this issue. The second thing that sticks out to me is that organizations such as this one make a tremendous impact on society. I’m truly grateful they exist. And finally
• For what purpose? This is such a great question, it’s wonderful to have conversations but ask yourself - for what purpose? There is always so much talk, it’s time to take action.

Until next time,  be well, be inspired, be you. 

 

From Suicide Ideation to Living a Spirited Life

On today’s episode, we are travelling (virtually that is) to Stoke-on-Trent in England to chat with Rebel girl Nicky Bartley. As a transformation coach, Nicky has a magic touch for helping people understand how the mind works. There might have been an ocean between us but I loved the connection I felt with Nicky.

We have a lovely chat about:

• Living a secret life with stress, depression, suicidal thoughts and attempts;
• Even at rock bottom how you are always okay; and
• When we peel back the layers of the inner critic the beauty of life unfolds.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• When we create a story of low self-worth and not-enoughness we stay behind the mask. It’s such a heavy place to live. We limit ourselves because we believe the story we have constructed. If we live in this state for long enough it starts to manifest symptomatically in our bodies. When we allow ourselves to drop the mask, we see that the potential and possibilities are limitless;
• When we are feeling off track or off-kilter there is information in that, as Nicky says, your feelings are like a personal alert system. I heard a great metaphor by Dr. Bill Pettit, he referred to our feelings as a personal bio-feedback system. Feelings are not to be avoided, changed, managed, etc. Feelings are a barometer to the quality of your thinking. Nothing more, nothing less. How powerful is that!
• Trying to control and manage our thoughts and feelings is exhausting and keeps us stuck. When we let go of the need to control we move quickly back into the flow; and
• A beautiful life is really simple, even when it’s complicated. The simplicity lies in understanding that life ebbs and flows, thoughts, feelings, experiences of life change moment to moment. There is nothing you need to do but be in the moment.

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

The Journey to Mental Health After Three Vicious Attacks

This month I’m travelling the world vicariously with my guests. Today I am jet setting to Isreal to chat with author, coach and speaker Chana Studley. Chana survived three vicious attacks which led to a period of time suffered debilitating PTSD and severe anxiety, in this episode, we talk about her journey to wellness.  

In this information-packed podcast, we take a deep dive into:

• Surviving trauma not once, not twice but three times and our inbuilt resiliency;
• How our body is like a personal alarm system;
• What happens when we let go of our stories; and
• The fascinating connection between the mind and body.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• You are not your story. When severe trauma happens it is easy to embrace the story and let it define you. It can be difficult to let it go, and when you do, it opens the door to a whole new experience of life;
• We are all born with an innate system that regulates our body. It is also there as a personal alarm to tell us when we are experiencing thoughts that take us away from our wellbeing. This innate system is such a gift. For Chana this personal alarm shut things down after years of being stuck in her trauma and afraid to leave the house;
• Self-esteem is not hard-wired or even constant - it’s based on a story we tell ourselves and others. It feels true, however accepting it as truth and allowing it to define you is what keeps you stuck; and
• The connection between mind, brain and body is fascinating AND life changing. By gaining an understanding of the mind and how we operate as humans we discover a way to tap into our wellbeing from an emotional and physical healing perspective.   

I hope you enjoy the show. 

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To reach Chana:

https://www.chanastudley.com/

To learn more about Chana’s FB group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/understandinganxietystressandtrauma/

Chana’s book:

https://www.amazon.ca/Myth-Low-Self-Esteem-Hollywood-healing

 

https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Low-Self-Esteem-Hollywood-healing/

Life's Challenges and Wisdom of a Twenty Year Old

Joining me today from Bordeaux, France is Dan Arscott. Dan is a third-year physics student, and creative who has a passion for cooking, and also for helping young people embrace their own innate wellbeing.  

Among other things, we take a deep dive into:

• When we embrace the self-criticism, self-doubt, and negative stories about ourselves;
• Balancing young adulthood, sharing the truth about being gay and starting university; and
• The practical aspects of the laws of physics.

It's fascinating to hear what life looks like to a twenty-year-old. I am so impressed with Dan's wisdom and presence. I can't wait to see what unfolds for him as he navigates life.  

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• This too shall pass - an adage that reflects on the temporary nature of the human condition is a perfect reflection of our experiences in life, whether good or bad - they are temporary moments;
• Engaging in anxious thoughts, criticism, fear of failure is not just something that adults do. Children and young adults dance with these stories as well. They benefit tremendously from having conversations with them about the power of thought and how our human operating system works;
• Children and youth are trying to navigate the world as they see it. As they reach adolescence they are going through a lot of changes. Try and meet them where they are at, not where you think they should be. Give them a wide berth and create a space where they can talk through their lens with you. Doing so will have a profound impact on their world; and
• This one is for all the adults, teachers, anyone who makes blanket statements about or to young people. (For example, telling children that they aren’t academic, or smart, or athletic, or enough). You have no idea what kind of impact that statement might have on them. I wonder what Dan’s teacher who said he wasn’t really academic would think now to know he is not only in his third year of physics at University, but it taking his third year in French! Wow!!!   

Sit back and enjoy the conversation. If you have any questions about the three principles please do not hesitate to reach out.  

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

 

When Judgement Is Replaced With Curiosity - Episode #23

In today's episode, I have the pleasure of chatting with Jonelle Simms. She is a lovely soul who left the corporate world to focus her time and efforts on Community. She now works as a coach, delivers corporate workshops and works with those who are marginalized and suffering in the community,

In this fun chat we take a deep dive into:

• What happens when questionable people move in next door? Do you love thy neighbour or do you move?;
• When you stop searching for a fix in the self-help industry and accept life as it is, you realize that suffering is an illusion. A tremendous amount of suffering disappears;
• The power of unconditional and impersonal love; and
• The resilience of those who are marginalized and suffering.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• When we show up fully, and are fully present, without our own agenda or ego and we meet people where THEY are at - that is true service;
• It’s easy to judge others who are less fortunate, but when you change the lens you are looking through, or take off the judgement googles, you will see that those who are struggling are actually the epitome of resilience; and
• Thinking, specifically overthinking can be so toxic. It can feel like you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. The power of thought is incredible. The fact that you think is part of being human, learning that you don’t have to engage with those thoughts is life-changing.  

This is a fun and engaging conversation. I hope you enjoy it. Keep the emails and feedback coming. I love hearing from you.

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To reach Jonelle:

http://www.procrastinationpublications.com/

To learn more about the upcoming event in Winnipeg:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1DLmALFXRw4qUzPv-Xr9vSQNLJhBH3SVj/view?fbclid=IwAR2fx_D-XRdOHsrftLASiOKGICWvXgv9d1mQk3YPu69XdXv0RUKNUlTPdjk

Can Perimenopause and Menopause Be Part of A Beautiful Journey? - Episode #22

Absolutely thrilled to chat today with educator and author Tania Elfersy. She is the beautiful soul behind The Wiser Woman Project. Our conversation is about raising awareness and helping women through perimenopause and menopause.

During this conversation, we take a deep dive into:  

• The narrative around perimenopause;
• The signs of perimenopause quietly creeping into our lives way before we might expect;    
• How Tania's symptoms quickly disappeared; and
• The wisdom of our bodies.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• It’s great to have these conversations, there is nothing to dread or be ashamed of when you change the way you look at things - the things you look at change;
• The human body is innately AMAZING. When we let ourselves be open to that wisdom it will guide us through birth, puberty, perimenopause, etc.;
• We often deny ourselves the space, time and self-care that our bodies, our innate wisdom is gently guiding us towards. When we say yes to someone else we are saying no to ourselves; and
• Your body can only and will only ever act of love and your body is always brilliant.

I hope you enjoy this conversation.  

 Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

Resolving Conflict From A Fresh Perspective

Conflict, we all come across it at some point in our lives. Whether personally or professionally it can ruin us or if we give it the chance, it can have a profound ripple effect of transformation. In this epsiode, I talk with Sebastian Eck about a fresh perspective for resolving conflict. Sebastian is an amazing human being who has a curiosity and passion for resolving conflict and a heart for peace and harmony.

During this conversation, we take a deep dive into:  

• Conflict with self and others;
• The power of deep listening in situations of conflict or difficult interpersonal relationships; and
• What happens when people are not open to resolving conflict.

While this was a lighthearted and fun conversation, it was filled with some golden nuggets.

Often when we are dealing with personal conflict, it is the ego taking the lead. When we sit back and let our minds settle we give the opportunity for our own wisdom to shine through.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• There is immense power in meeting people where they are at, not where we think they should be but understanding how they are seeing their world at that moment. I cannot state this enough.
• When we show up to a conversation with no agenda and no attachment to the outcome it creates the space for true connection to happen. And when we have a true connection, there is power to make significant impacts; and
• When we put aside our own personal thinking and reach out to someone we have strong resistance to, it offers a point of connection. From that connection, new possibilities arise.

I really hope you enjoy this conversation. Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

A Journey From Severe Anxiety to Wellness - Episode 20

I’m happy to be back online after a short break. Today I have the pleasure of chatting with Sarie Taylor. Sarie went through a period of severe anxiety in her twenties and was hospitalized, she then went on to train as a psychotherapist and more recently works as a coach who specializes in anxiety. 

During this conversation, we take a deep dive into:  

• The journey from intense, life-crippling anxiety to wellbeing;
• What happens when we trust that we are okay;
• The power and potential of showing up with no agenda; and
• The magic that happens when we don’t attach ourselves to labels.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

• The is immense power and potential when we don’t adopt the notion that we are broken and need to be fixed;
• We all have anxious thoughts because we are human. We don’t and can’t fix that fact;
• When a parent or teacher embraces the fact that the child has innate wellbeing (we all do), the child is more likely to embrace that fact as well; and
• We experience much less anxious thinking, life flows better and is much more enjoyable when we don’t engage with the vicious cycle of overthinking.

 

I love reading your emails so feel free to reach out with your comments, questions and feedback.  

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn